Do you ever find yourself acting completely out of character? Maybe you're typically the cool, calm, collected one - and then suddenly you find yourself getting an attitude or upset.
Or maybe when someone gives you a compliment, you think they're lying because you can't see it... AT ALL!
In the work that I do (personally & with clients) includes a bunch of inner work, and by a bunch I mean the majority. And for good reason.
That's where it all begins, and ends. You see, nothing outside of you can control or affect you. You are responsible for how you act, speak, react, view, believe, project, etc.
Yes, it's easier to blame these external factors (spouse, work, children, friends, etc) AND that doesn't improve or solve the situation.
And something has been coming up frequently in my own practice - my shadow. Each one of us is comprised of this shadow side. Our shadow is those parts of ourselves that we dislike, repress, or are even blind to. With that said, it's not a bad thing. Our shadow is here to teach us, to guide us.
Because I've been doing this work for so long, it's a lot easier for me to recognize when I'm exhibiting traits from my shadow. Not only that, but I can also begin to pinpoint where this aspect first appeared in my life AND consciously adjust to my authentic self.
What this could look like for you:
- judging other people
- talking negatively about others + starting drama
- talking negatively about yourself (camouflaging them as jokes)
- self sabotaging yourself
- using partners for attention & validation
- never allowing others to help/support you
Don't panic! Everyone deals with this.
If you're willing to show up & do the work, you will begin to heal & create a better life for yourself. Some simple questions to ask yourself (& journal on) are:
- "When do I find myself most triggered?"
- "At what times do I sense my stress levels rising, or anger to appear?"
- "What traits do people say I have that I don't believe?"
- "What causes me to be jealous?"
- "In what ways am I not aligning my actions with my words/desires?"
I'd love to hear your thoughts and questions! I LOVE nerding out about this type of stuff. If you're not sure what a shadow is, or are having trouble determining some aspects of your own - shoot me a message!
I'm always here for you!
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